How To Get Help From Antagonistic Relatives When Doing Your Family Tree Research

Many people who are researching their family tree, at one time or another run into someone who is negative or even antagonistic toward the idea of anyone digging up old family secrets. While kindness, consideration and enthusiasm open the doors with most folks, some resistant members of the family may need something more. Occasionally you just have to accept the fact that someone knows valuable information but they don’t want to share it so you are going to have to do your own independent sleuthing for the family facts.

One genealogist explained how she preferred to use what she called “the back door” method to stimulate interest while trying to trace family history. She would explain her hobby and then request and interview with various family members and then with their permission would share those stories with extended family members. Starting with her own parents she soon progressed to aunts and uncles and then other family members.

In her introductory message this creative genealogist would remind the family member how we often refer to ourselves or our children as having their mother’s smile or grandfather’s chin etc. By reminding one another that we are all a blend of the intelligence, character and attributes of our extended ancestral gene pool, it helps us become more interested in those who preceded us in life. In a very real way we come to know ourselves better as we come to know our ancestors.

Sometimes other family members have done extensive genealogical research and invested many years and financial resources into the process. We need to be respectful of all of that contribution, express appreciation and even offer to assist financially or express our willingness to share whatever we may find. For those involved already in family tree research, it is usually good to ask them for advice as to how you can coordinate your efforts with theirs so that no one is wasting either time or money duplicating the efforts of others. Whenever you do share information, be sure to share the sources of the information as well so that duplication is minimized and the information you are sharing are given their proper value.

One technique that is used effectively with those that are not anxious to share family facts is to just be friends with them and engage them in lots of conversation. In the course of the natural communication, make a mental note and remember the dates and facts that you are able to learn about the family. Take a break after gleaning some good information and then when you are in private, jot the details down for future reference. Ask questions about the family. but not so many as to sound like you are conducting a fact finding mission or an inquisition.

Another way to help develop family relationships and information exchange is to start and manage a family newsletter or blog. When invitations are sent out to all cousins and distant relatives, ask for stories and events about them, their children or their parents. Throwing in a periodic thought or quote can make it all the more interesting.  5-31-10


Use The Power of Attraction To Find Your Family Tree Successfully

You may ask: How do I find the maximum success in building my family tree?  There are immutable laws that govern the universe.  One of those laws is the law of attraction.  Whether one believes in a governing law or not, that belief (or lack thereof) does not change the reality of the law by one iota. Use the secret law of attraction as you research family tree mysteries for amazing success!

Since the dawn of time, those that have found the things they were looking for in life, either knowingly or ignorantly followed the law of attraction. We receive that which we think about and have powerful emotions about. The Bible teaches that as a man thinketh, so he becomes.

The most frequent admonition within the Bible is to ASK.  When we pray, or ask for something that is right and good, that very act of focusing upon the desired result brings into force the law of attraction.

If you really want to have a profound increase in your success as you find family tree building experiences, utilize this great universal law … created and taught by the God of the Universe. Personally, in my personal quest to find my family tree and build it, I have literally found thousands of relatives through this principle. Apply it – it works!

Take 20 minutes or so and INVEST in your future success – in your genealogy and in all aspects of your life. Watch this potentially life changing video:

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If you are having some challenges with building your family tree or in any other area of your life, I am 100% confident that watching this short video can help you.

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